Any tips on getting your sex life back after finding out you have HPV?

by Rachel on January 24, 2011

I found out i have hpv while pregnant. I had my baby in October went back for my 6 weeks checkup hoping it would be gone but since i had a c section my pap was still abnormal. My boyfriend is furious. i understand. Everytime we have sex he gets a rash on his penis and it seems to get very dry and he says it burns. Is this normal for guys? I have no warts just the abnormal cells.Im so confused. please help. i need something to try and fix our sex life.

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sweetboarder_20 January 24, 2011 at 5:42 pm

First of all i don’t understand why he would be mad….unless he’s not the one that gave it to you. Second, the rash does not sound like a reaction to the HPV, do you use condoms, lube, or anything else that he may be allergic to? And another thought is that you may just not be wet enough and the friction is giving him a rash, maybe try some lube or more foreplay.

DanKush January 24, 2011 at 5:49 pm

There is only way to get your life back after getting diagnosed with HPV. That is, get rid of it, but we all know that by western medicine that is impossible, so take it into your own hands and make it possible. It wont be easy, but I believe it is possible, at least you dont have warts…yet.

Snout January 24, 2011 at 6:34 pm

The first thing to remember is that genital HPV infections are extremely common – in fact most sexually active people will get them at some stage of their lives. There are several different types: – some cause visible warts on both men and women, while others cause changes that can only be picked up on a smear test.

The second thing is that MOST people will clear genital HPV infections naturally through their own immune system, but that it might take months or even a few years.

A minority of people don’t clear HPV infections by themselves, and in some cases the ongoing infection can cause changes on the cervix called dysplasia. In some cases, dysplasia can get worse over time, and lead to cervical cancer. This is why it is important to have regular smears done (your doctor will telll you how often) to make sure the dysplasia is getting better. If it gets worse, it may need to be treated.

Your partner almost certainly has, or has had, the same infection. The types of HPV that cause abnormal cells in women usually have no symptoms in men. The rash he’s experiencing is probably caused by something else, and he should see his doctor.

He has no good reason to be furious. It is just as likely that he gave it to you than you gave it to him. In any case, HPV is just an extremely common virus, not a moral judgement about the behavior of either of you. The important thing is to keep an eye on your infection, and follow your doctor’s advice about testing and any possible treatment.

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