Caught cancer at 17, how can I cope?

by Rachel on May 21, 2011

I’m 20 now, but when I was 17 I caught the Human Papilloma Virus. Since then I’ve been battling Pre-cancerous cells on my cervix trying to prevent cancer. I’m pretty sure when i got my LEEP done 2 years ago it was in it’s early cancer stage cause it was CIN 2-3. How can I cope with knowing I have a chance of getting cancer, and that I might have to have a Hysterectomy at an early age? I’m so sad and depressed that I dont even want to get out of bed in the morning =/ and so paranoid that it has me on the computer asking questions at 9 in the morning.
No offense taken KSH! I need advice like that to get me off my feet. Thanks!
I mean on my feet lol

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KSH May 21, 2011 at 5:04 pm

That can be pretty scary, but my best advice to you is to not worry about something that hasn’t happened yet. If you do end up having a hysterectomy at a young age, deal with it then, not now! Why would you be depressed and stay in bed all day??? You need to live life to it’s fullest right now! Everyone should live each day like it’s their last. Do you worry about being hit by a bus every day? ‘Cause it can happen too!

I don’t mean to sound insensitive to your worries – just trying to get you out there and enjoy life! That’s my best recommendation for coping!

Ilovemj May 21, 2011 at 5:39 pm

Did a doctor confirm that you have cancer?

Worrying will not make you feel better. Cancer can be treated if discovered early so see your doctor soon.

BamaFireFighter523 May 21, 2011 at 6:10 pm

Im sorry. Cancer is a difficult thing to deal with. Im 21 and I know what you are going through. I also have precancerous cells on my right lung. Theyve been there for a few years. The best thing to tell you is to not worry about it. The more you worry and stress about it, the weaker your immune system gets and is less able to protect good cells from the precancerous. There is no point in worrying about something that you cant control. Im not gonna lie, if I sit and think about it, ill make myself sick stressing about it. Its best to keep it out of your mind. Hang out with your friends and try to keep a smile on your face. *virtual hug*

mandm68 May 21, 2011 at 6:23 pm

Teressa… You stated you caught the virus. I take it that you was having sexual relations when this happened? If so, think of all those who have never put them self’s at risk that” have “cancer that’s not in a pre cancerous stage. Like millions of others there are hundreds younger then us, who like myself” have” this disease. Mine is of the spinal cord caused from a treatment with testosterone injections i take because of an injury to my penis with many many surgeries to keep what is left of it, which also cost me both testicles. What is so hard about living with the fact you may get cancer? Everyone lives with the chance of getting cancer. Today they can do more then they could when both my parents died of it. Im not so tied to this world that if i die tomorrow i know i have a future, better then what this life offers. Take a trip to the children’s hospital, you will soon see just how fortunate we really are. There is always someone in a situation that makes ours look like child’s play. Honestly! The object is that if you have it, give it your best to beat it. What else would any one do? Lay down and die because you have been told you have it. I think not! We don’t come with a stamp on us saying when we expire that i’ve ever seen. And doctors don’t know everything. No one knows that better then me. Try putting some trust in God. It takes the same amount of Faith to not believe as it does to believe. Then remember Christ himself had to die to live. We can ask for anything we want, and though we don’t think our prayers aren’t answered, they never go unanswered, it may not be the answer we want, but it will never go unanswered i promise. I don’t mean to sound mean or ignorant, i mean to open our eyes and see that there is more then worrying about the IF’s. Live every minute to the fullest and extend a hand to others. There is enough hate in this world don’t you think? All those you love tell them so everyday. No good deed ever goes un-noticed . Laugh often as it is good medicine for the soul. Cry with others, and above all share your love. Good Luck! Now you have a reason to get out of bed and LIVE! Steve

Lily L May 21, 2011 at 6:38 pm

First, you should know at MOST women have HPV, and it is very rare for this to be a continuing problem. One LEEP is curative 80%-95% of the time. Some women require a second LEEP, but chances are that this will NEVER come back and be a problem for you again. So stop worrying.

Wanna hear the BEST new EVER: there are a couple of clinical trials underway that are testing a theraputic vaccine for HPV. They give you injections that boost your immune system to specifically target HPV. Once the HPV is gone, the abnormalities just resolve themselves! No surgery required. I hear they are having great success. SO forget the idea of having a hysterectomy at an early age. You are fine!!!!

Bryan's Princess May 21, 2011 at 7:13 pm

Please don’t take offense to what I say. I am being truly sincere when I say….stop dwelling on all the “maybes”, focus on the things you have to take care of for that day only (regarding your health issues) and get things done. Always do things with a positive mind, thinking positive thoughts, and acting in a positive manner. Positive doesn’t attract the negative things that are around you everywhere you go in this world.

You always hear people complaining about anything and everything when your either out at the store, shopping somewhere, or even while your eating in a restaurant people around you are complaining. That’s negativity, and if you allow it by listening, it will have you the same way…complaining and miserable.

I think that you just need a little reminder of how good you actually have it right now, as you stress over the precancerous possibilities you may one day face.

…..My husband has stage 4 brain cancer which we have been battling for 2 yrs 7 months, everyday, day after day, and night after night. He has had a total of 18 brain surgeries in that 2 yrs and 7 month period, eventually resulting in him losing all functions in the entire right side of his body..hand, arm, leg, and his foot. He was then in time wheelchair bound due to him no longer able to stand and hold his own weight, lost his ability to speak, write, spell and read. I bath him, shave him, brush his teeth, groom his facial hair, clean his booty, hold his penis while he urinates and clean him up after every time (includes cleaning out the urinal-he can’t stand so he cant use the restroom). I feed him, move him by myself from couch to couch at home whenever he wants to move & is tired of sitting (he’s 286 lbs & 5″11; I’m 130 lbs & 5’6), administer all his IV medications (meds are 3 times daily), maintain his daily oral medications, clean our home, cook, well….all the regular daily household chores by myself…..I think you got the picture.

And through all this…his mental status was changing daily from being angry to so sweet to a toddler and back to his regular self. There were times when he had no idea who I was for a minute or two. He’d get scared & cry for his wife and call her name…not realizing that I (his wife) was sitting right there in front of him, trying to console him. He’d finally realize it was me and stop crying. It broke my heart to watch him go through this, but I stayed positive and so did he.

Now that would be a day to complain about, one would think…oh don’t forget the daily doctors appts, chemotherapy, physical therapy app ts, occupational therapy and speech therapy too. I never complain…no matter how hard it gets. My husband is my world, and I am his…love is a positive thing, and that’s what keeps me going, that’s what keeps me fighting for him.

So enjoy your life everyday you can, and stop worrying about tomorrow…live for today, cause tomorrow is not guaranteed.

My husband passed away Tuesday morning 7/14/09 here at home. I was taking care of him here, in-home hospice. We buried him on 7/20/09, four days ago. My better half has gone to a better place where he no longer suffers from cancer…he no longer suffers period. I miss him more than one would ever imagine…

but I still remain positive through it all.
Good luck to you

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