How do I make my 17 year old daughter feel safe about being diagnosed with genital warts?

by Rachel on October 27, 2011

She just got out of a horrible 15 month relationship, has her annual pap smear and is told she has genital warts. SHe is mad, scared and feels in her words,”dirty”. How as her mom do I make her feel ok with self and her future?

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Michael M October 27, 2011 at 8:04 pm

keeep taking and you will suceed

House MD October 27, 2011 at 8:46 pm

You can’t. She has to realize she is going to have little red things growing out of her forever until there is a vaccine developed that destroys the Herpes virus in several years

Agape October 27, 2011 at 9:01 pm

Tell her that 80% of women will acquire some strain of HPV in their lifetimes. She isn’t alone. There are support groups and dating sites that she can join for people who have HPV.

Once the visible symptoms are gone, we will have an easier time dealing with it.

Also, I would suggest that she get the Gardisil vaccination which helps prevent her from acquiring high risk HPV that can lead to cervical Cancer. Even if she has one strand of HPV that causes warts, it is possible to get other strands in the future. Women can get this vaccination until they are 26 years old.

In general, just keep doing what you are doing – be supportive and non-judgmental. Help her find people in the same situation that she can relate with.

Good luck!

JSTABRAT2006 October 27, 2011 at 9:40 pm

First of all your daughter should be using a condom every time she has sex, but to answer your question, genital warts are a virus caused by hpv (human papiloma virus. If her warts are internal, she runs the risk of developing cervical cancer later in life.If thy are external they can be removed by cryo therapy that is usually done by a dermatologist. If they are internal they can also be treated with cryo. Your daughter does not need to feel dirty, but she does need to protect herself, because the last thing on any teenage boys mind when he is gonna get some is protection. Hpv is the most reported std in the us. Tell your daughter you love her, and buy her some condoms

Alli October 27, 2011 at 10:02 pm

Just be there for her.

I was diagnosed with HPV when I was 17 also (along with genital herpes). That same year I developed cervical cancer and about 5 years later I developed genital warts from my HPV.

Just let her know it’ll be okay and that you are there for her. I felt HORRIBLE after I was diagnosed. My father actually started crying when my mother told him the news. He was crushed and I was absolutely devastated. The thing that helped me the most was the love and support from my mom. My dad cared too, but it was my mom who I turned to when I needed someone. She was always there to help me, whether it was helping me stay comfortable, making me something to eat (and basically babying me) or just being there to talk to and have a shoulder to cry on.

Your daughter shouldn’t feel dirty at all! MILLIONS of people have this virus, so she is certainly not alone! With time and love and support from the people she cares about she’ll be fine. She’ll get through it! Good luck!

sgtlambsonswife October 27, 2011 at 10:20 pm

The majority of sexually active women have been exposed to or diagnosed with genital warts. It doesn’t make those women “dirty”! Condoms don’t stop all STDs but make sure she knows she needs to use them anyway. And most women don’t know they have been exposed until they have a pap smear that comes back abnormal because for some reason we usually don’t exhibit any symptoms. Just let her know that as long as she’s getting regular pap smears her future is fine!

Summer_Lovin_Ox October 27, 2011 at 10:27 pm

i am the same way. im 17. almost 18 in 2 months.. i was told that 6 months ago. its not easy accepting this. its actually sort of devastating at first.. but she will learn to accept it.. you will succeed if you keep talking to her about it.. and tell her its not the end of the world. if its herpes.. granted there is no cure.. but it comes and goes. that is the good thing to seek out of the whole thing.. over time she will accept it and she will forget about it as i did. but it is hard at first. =/

Kali October 27, 2011 at 11:06 pm

If it is HPV, some strands go away on their own. So tell her not to lose hope!

lucky_fawk October 27, 2011 at 11:15 pm

Try and comfort her as much as you can i’m 18 and i’ve got it as well. It will be very hard to except it at first, but then u eventually move on like i did. Its just something that takes time. Maybe not talking about it will help. I hate it when my mom does.

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