How do you tell a new girlfriend/boyfriend you have genital warts without them halting the relationship?

by Rachel on August 29, 2011

I’ve just started a relationship with someone very special and we are both head over heels with each other. It’s been a few weeks now and we’re starting to become more physical and that day is rapidly approaching. I contracted genital warts from my last girlfriend which was over a year ago and now I’m ready for this new relationship but I’m scared to death she will leave when I tell her. How do I tell her without losing her?

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NR-CMA *Jen* August 29, 2011 at 5:14 am

well you just have to come out and say it

if they really love you then it won’t be as big of a problem as you would think

good luck

veryworried August 29, 2011 at 6:12 am

You should sit her down and tell her your story. Also, i think providing her with some information about how you can take measures to prevent her from getting them will ease her worries. If she loves you she will stay with you and yall can practice safe sex and work together to keep her genital warts free. Good luck!

essentiallysolo August 29, 2011 at 6:26 am

you must tell her… if her love is real and lasting, there won’t be an issue. If you wear a condom, you won’t pass them on to her, and if she has had the guardisil shot she is protected anyway. Consider it a test of her professed love.

BSherman August 29, 2011 at 7:18 am

Sorry pal, but unless she already has genital warts, she must leave your relationship. Why would she want to contract genital warts? Why would you want to transmit them to her? You have a difficult condition that is going to be a long-term problem in forming relationships.

Lyn August 29, 2011 at 7:31 am

May I suggest that you refrain from sexual contact with your partner until such time as you have been treated and given the 100 % all clear.

Genital warts are treatable.

I would also suggest that you are honest and tell the person that you have the condition. They have a right to know.

If this person loves you – they will stick around and help you through this.

You also need to slow down and practise safe sex in the future – for your sake and your future partner (s)

Get help ASAP

Good luck

worried to death August 29, 2011 at 7:42 am

I am a female, and i also have genital warts. Its not that big of a deal like most people think it is. No one can even tell i have them. There are ways of preventing her from getting them, such as condoms, or bandaids over the warts while having sex. But if you get your warts removed, or use the cream to make them go away, then as long as you dont have a outbreak, chances are she wont even get them… And about telling her, tell her all the details about it, print up some sheets so she can be more detailed about whats going on. Let her know that you love her, and you care about her, which is why your telling her in advance, let her get used to the idea, and let her know it cant kill her or anything like that. Chances are, if she feels the same way you do then she wont care!!! Just be sure to add in all the details, and talk to her about everything, and answer all her questions!!!!

Medic Loretta August 29, 2011 at 7:43 am

1) get rid of genital warts as soon as it is possible !!!!
2) try to somehow lengthen the time while you are getting rid of warts! give here oral sex or somehow avoid sex where your penis is involved!
and when you are without genital warts then you can sit and tell her that you have HPV virus! (because HPV virus is that causes genital warts)!
3) first use surgery to remove warts and then start build up your immune system! because you can remove genital warts by surgery, freezing, laser, acid or cream but genital warts can reappear again and again because genital warts appears when your immune system is weak!

HPV is the virus that causes genital warts. People can be infected with HPV and never show any symptoms. Others will develop genital warts. These warts can stay the same size, grow, or go away on their own. It largely depends on the infected person’s immune system. A healthy immune system means your body may be able to suppress the virus and not show symptoms.

Even after the warts go away, the person will always remain infected with HPV. That person can spread the virus even without showing symptoms.

so you must build up your immune system because your body can get rid of genital warts by itself if your immune system will be strong! so eat more healthy food, more vitamins and more sport activities! (No smoking, no beer/ale, no booze, no drugs, no junk food, no fast food garbage, no sugary sweet soda’s. Get on a good, balanced, healthy diet including plenty of boiled or steamed vegetables.
Drink P L E N T Y O F W A T E R , fruit juices & fat free milk. Snack on lots of RAW fruit & veggies. Get up one hour early every morning & take a BRISK 30 minute walk – then – do the same thing again in the evening after dinner. Make sure you eat a good, balanced breakfast daily. You get your energy for the day from your breakfast meal. Get 8 hours sleep each night. Flip your mattress over so it will level out to give you a good night’s rest. Slack off too much coffee & tea) also you must use herbal treatment!

in that case Wartrol is a good (probably the best) product that gets rid of genital warts comparatively fast and makes you feel more confident knowing that they wont reappear again! It works by stimulating your immune system to fight the HPV virus that causes the warts. of course it is better if you use full course (5 months – if I remember correctly).

It worked and still works for me!

I do not know if any pharmacies carry Wartrol but I do know that you should purchase it directly from the manufacturer and read more about the product here
http://www.wartrol.com/?aid=749165

good luck!

Working in women’s health + personal experience

Jack August 29, 2011 at 8:40 am

Genital Warts, Also Known as Venereal Warts or Condylomata Acuminata, are caused by the Human Papilloma virus . Papilloma Viruses Cause Small Growths (Warts) on the Skin and Mucous Membranes. Infection of the Genital and Anal Regions with HPV can Cause Warts on the Penis, Vulva, Urethra, Vagina, Cervix, and around the Anus (perianal).Don’t Even Think About Trying To Remove Your Genital Warts With Unproven, Unnatural, or Potentially Dangerous Approaches
Some Tips and Precautions You Can Use Rigt Away :

* Take care not to damage, scratch or pick at these warts.
* Inform your partner, use a condom, and practice safe sex.
* Wash your hands thoroughly with hot water and soap.
* Avoid touching them. Because they are so contagious, you could spread them with your hands.
Learn the Easy Step Home treatment that Remove Genital Warts Quickly and Easily :
http://www.genitalwartsover.net/
here is a free ebook:http://www.men-healthy.net/Genital-Warts-Everything-You-Need-to-Know.pdf

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