Is it weird to ask your partner to get an STD test before sex?

by Rachel on June 12, 2011

I am not with anyone right now but I was just curious because this is what they taught us in HS.
If I am in a relationship and we still haven’t slept together, would it be weird if I ask the partner for us to both get STD tested prior to having sex. Just in case.

Or is that geeky? I would get tested too of course even though I’m a virgin.

Just so its fair.

Better safe than sorry.

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groomer2@rogers.com June 12, 2011 at 8:07 am

Make sure that your sex partner wears a condom this will protect you from stds and getting pregnant.

Beautiful_Chica08 June 12, 2011 at 8:57 am

No its not weird condoms don’t protect your from everything such as herpes and warts so you should ask your partner if they refuse then don’t sleep with them

LINDA R June 12, 2011 at 9:07 am

It’s not weird to ask your partner to get tested. In fact, it is completely appropriate, and a very good idea to ask your partner to get tested. It is also a good idea to volunteer to get tested with your partner. Anger or refusal in response to your request is a good indication that your partner is hiding something or does not care about you. Someone who cares about you will respect your request. Volunteering to get tested with your partner shows that you are being honest and not hiding anything.

Some people think it is a good idea to ask their partner how many partners they’ve had or whether or not they’ve been tested. Unfortunately, that is usually not a good idea, because even though some people will tell the truth, some people will lie.

It is much safer to ask your partner to get tested. As you said, better safe than sorry.

Stacy Hall June 12, 2011 at 9:50 am

Its not weird to ask but sometimes people can lie and say that been tested but they havnt or they might have something and just dont wanna tell you. Make sure you trust who your with and always use a condom

Taylor Bob June 12, 2011 at 10:25 am

No it isn’t at all. if you’re partner really loves you he/she will be more than happy to be tested.
so then at least both of you know you are secure and clean from any STDS
as you said better be safe than sorry!

LINDSEY S June 12, 2011 at 10:37 am

Might be a little awkward but not weird. I think you should, specially if he has had a lot of past partners that can put him at risk for possibly having an std. Have a sex chat with him, let him know that you want to take things to the next level but your worried about stds.
It’s always better to be safe then sorry, if he doesn’t want to get tested then, ask him to use condoms until he does get tested.

Troy June 12, 2011 at 10:43 am

No it’s not weird or geeky, it’s actually mature and thoughtful.

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