I was diagnosed about 2 months ago with HPV, and I am unable to tell my husband. I don’t know how to tell him, that I have exposed him before I found out, or he could have been the one that gave it to me. I don’t know where I got it, but I have it. My doctor didn’t tell me which strain I had just that I needed to come back in 4 months to repeat the pap test. I don’t know if I have warts, or pre-cancer. I am going crazy. I don’t know what to do, he is getting upset because I won’t have sex with him. I need help, he is going to think that I am having an affair, when I am only trying to protect him from my nasty disease.
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You know, he actually probably gave it to you. I’ve read 75-80% of the world has HPV and most don’t realize they have it. So, they go spreading it around unintentionally to their partners. HPV really isn’t as uncommon as most people think.
Since there is no test for men, it’s practically impossible to know if he has it or not, or if he was the one who gave it to you. Your husband might develop genital warts (if he has that strain) and then you’ll know for sure he has it. It can take months and sometimes years for warts to appear though.
Talk to your husband and let him know that you had no idea you had it or where you got it from. Ask your doctor next time you go back if they can tell you which kind or kinds of HPV you have. Pap smears are the best thing you can do right now to detect any early signs of cervical cancer. The reason they are having you come back in 4 months is to make sure nothing has change on your cervix (like abnormal cells). I’ve had to go to my OBGYN every 4 months for the last 5 years!
First off, if you are NOT having an affair, you are NOT to blame. You are innocent. This had to come from your partner. Bring it up when things are relatively light and say that this is what you have and you have NO IDEA how you got it!! You have not been “catting around”. It will click for him pretty quick. Protect yourself and your emotions.
It really probably is HIS nasty disease.
There is no need to feel guilty. You could have contracted it before you even met him, or he could have given it to you. It could be years before it shows up, trust me. I know someone who never knew they had it for years. He knew who he got it from because he hadn’t had a partner in 3 years, so it had to be from her. It took almost 4 years before any sign showed up and that was even a fluke. Or you may never know, because sometimes there are no symptoms at all. And by the way, not having sex with him won’t solve anything. He’s probably already got it.
It is my understanding that it can take up to 10 years for HPV to show up on a pap after being infected. Since males don’t show signs, you could have either gotten it from him or someone before him.
I just researched incubation periods for HPV on the web and came up with the following:
At the beginning of an infection, or after transmission, the virus typically invades the skin without any apparent symptoms…most people are not even aware of its presence. The usual incubation period for hpv is in the order of one to eight months, however, much longer incubation periods have been reported and are probably not that unsusual (may even remain dormant for years…). Given the extremely variable incubation period, it is difficult to determine the time of infection and the partner responsible for your hpv.
There is not an answer to this as I feel this is real and not a joke.
Just come clean .It could be from something well before him or you knew each other but either way it is to late so just just go about your business and only worry if you decide to have kids because they could be infected from birth. If you know I am willing to bet he knows too.
Good luck
These kind of things don’t really get answered on Q+A
Take your husband with you to your next exam so that he can hear it from the doctor himself. It might be easier that way and it could be more informative to him about the virus.
HPV is the only virus that cannot be protected by a condom. Usually guys are only carriers, a guy cannot not be tested for the virus. He’s your husband you have to tell him, but even if he did have it, it wouldnt be a very big deal, unless he started growing warts. I got HPV when i was 12, and when i got pregnant it was gone or at least the doctor said she couldnt find it in my blood. There is nothing youc an do about HPV except pray you dont get cervical cancer. Otherwise just tell your husband. Even if he has it there is nothing he can do about it. So take your husband with you next time to the doctor so that he can hear it firsthand that you weren’t knocking boots when he wasnt home.
This is to hard to answer because i don’t know him and is personality…..you know him, and his temperment, and what he’ll prob do……decide after you consider these factors……..but, maybe you should start some investigating, cause ”how DID YOU get it”…….maybe him?
just because it just showed up, doesnt mean your husband gave it to you, it doesnt mean you were cheating either. you could have caught it a long time ago and not known, likewise with him
honesty is always best. If you haven’t been messing around, then you don’t have anything to hide. Good luck!
Well, there are lots of strains of HPV. The MD should tell you on your next visit. Are you a candidate for the new vac.?? I would certainly ask the MD about that. The problem with the Pap smear is that it does not confirm the presence or absence of HPV. The presence of the virus could be used as an early indication of disease potential. Because the Pap test can only detect clinical evidence of cervical disease, molecular-based diagnostic tools are being used more frequently to detect the virus before abnormal cell growth can be observed. HPV can remain dormant for months or even years. As for your husband…I think honesty is key.
this is weird my sister went to the doctor and found out she has it and its not a disease its a virus look this up all i had to do is http://www.hpv.com it should help take care o and ur husband he could of got it u never know take care