starting a new relationship with HPV, opinions please!?

by Rachel on May 22, 2011

i am 20 years old and found out in march 09 that i contracted HPV (human papilloma virus). i had a minor occurance of warts that i have been getting treatment for. now my additional problem is that i have been pursuing a new relationship with an amazing girl, and i havn’t told her about the hpv yet. we havn’t have sex yet but she is ALL OVER ME and 3 weeks of playing hard-to-get is getting old.. i don’t know how to break the word although i know i need to… i know its early and all but this girl seems too perfect for me and i am perfect in her eyes so far as well. i dont want to lose something good over this.. i like to think that everything will work out fine but basically, this sh*t sucks. is anyone is a similar predicament? should i just say it and get it out there? i also try to stay private and not put my personal business out there.. but i need to tell her this.. i cant be a scumbag and just f**k her lol.. please help!

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Shilo May 22, 2011 at 11:34 pm

You owe it to her to tell her. What if it was reversed? She can then make up her mind. And with condoms isn’t it safe?
Most cases of HPV that I’ve heard of never cause a problem to either male or female. But again, she has a right to know. You want to get unclothed and be as personal as two people can get and yet you “don’t want to put your personal business out there”. If people can’t talk about everything then they have no business of going to bed with them.

Tamara S May 23, 2011 at 12:04 am

Obviously there is a way to do this. You need to talk to her away from a sexual situation. Let her know the situation. Let her make the choice. She won’t be mad at you for thinking of her protection, And if she isn’t willing to deal with that, then she needs to move on. OR you guys just be good friends. But at least make her aware, give her a choice. And if she chooses to stay, both of you should get treatment, use protection etc. Maybe even go get tested together.

Lily L May 23, 2011 at 12:46 am

Sit her down and tell her you think that she’s amazing, but you have been holding off going any further because *gasp* you had genital warts.

Ask her if she’s had Gardasil. Gardasil protects against the 2 HPV strains that cause 90% of genital warts.

And if she hasn’t had it, tell her to get it. It would mean a 6 month wait, but that’s not a lot for a lifetime without HPV.

Autumn May 23, 2011 at 1:07 am

You need to tel her right away. that’s something that will never go away so you obviously can’t run from it. she might be able to look past it and love you no matter what. and she will definitely appreciate the fact that you told her instead of just giving her something. honesty is the best policy. from the sound of it you know you have to do this. it won’t be easy but just talk to her. good luck

pussers880 May 23, 2011 at 1:30 am

It’s really not that big of a deal. And you sound like a really honest and cool guy, which she will really appreciate, trust me!

Just explain your situation to her, ask her if she has had the Gardasil vaccine yet. If not, then she can get it from her doctor and she will be 90% protected.

Kudos to you! You sound like a 1 in a million guy, and she will definitely see that when you show concern for her and her health.

Medic Loretta May 23, 2011 at 2:07 am

better tell her about hpv – and before it – educate yourself very good!
so anyway she deserves to know that you can give to here HPV virus…
and of course – there is always a possibility that she has HPV virus already!!

curious May 23, 2011 at 2:43 am

And do not forget that young woman are not tested for HPV virus by doctors if they do nor display any problems, it tested, from 50 to 80 % of them will show positive results. If she is not a virgin, most probably she has HPV on her own.

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