What is proper way to tell my boyfriends I have Herpes and HPV ?

by Rachel on April 17, 2011

Should I just act like I dont and when he gets tested for them, then I say ” You gave it to me. I never had it”

With the summer and hot sun I have more frequesnt breakouts and they flare of alot with moisture

{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

I?Puppies April 17, 2011 at 5:29 am

you should tell him he some1 else passed it to you

Tessie April 17, 2011 at 6:14 am

are you serious!?!!? Please tell me this is just a joke…
if you are serious…are you saying you knew you had a STD and you had unprotected sex? how can you justify spreading a STD to someone by having unprotected sex…

Thank god…I just read all your questions and realized no person could be that screwed up…

bramblerock April 17, 2011 at 7:00 am

Be up front. Don’t be a bitch tell him so he can protect himself.

Linda April 17, 2011 at 7:28 am

Just tell him
You isn’t right you know what you doing
with another health

silenced_fears April 17, 2011 at 8:05 am

You need to be open and honest with that sort of thing. He needs to know what kind of scenario he is getting himself into. There are some instances where there are legal matters. Some people can sue for that sort of thing if you know and you dont tell. They can prove it with your medical records also.

vicki_waldner April 17, 2011 at 8:55 am

And you want to be a model for Playboy? mmmmmmm very interesting.

fadded April 17, 2011 at 9:38 am

The real question is how did you get a boyfriend if you look like that picture wow the onions on my burger are crying

thewordofgodisjesus April 17, 2011 at 10:02 am

Don’t get intimate in any way, and you won’t have to worry about saying anything.

Rosi April 17, 2011 at 10:33 am

Well i dont know what is like to have an STD but if you have it you should tell your boyfriend. Its wrong to just keep on spreading it and act like it was never your fault.
Plus what makes you think he dont get check. Maybe he already got check and knows that he dont got it. Then if he gets it his going to know it was your fault.

letmeknow738 April 17, 2011 at 10:46 am

!st of all…I hope YOU are getting yourself taken care of medically friend???? If not…please do!!!! If you do not place yourself 1st…NO ONE else will.

Now…your quesiton…just be honest, blunt and upfront with them…they may be shocked…they may be mad…BUT in the long run…you will gain their trust and resoect!!! Stay safe!!!

wickdstpmthr April 17, 2011 at 10:57 am

1) get a preventive prescription from your doctor (e.g. Valtrex)
2) blow dry your pubic area, keeps it dryer and reduces the moisture (low setting)
3) tell HIM before
4) always use a condom

ash April 17, 2011 at 10:59 am

there is never a good time to tell ur boyfriend that u have herpes and HIV. but u do need to tell him soon cause if he finds out i promise he woun’t be too happy about it

Princesa EspaƱola Negra April 17, 2011 at 11:04 am

You need to be upfront and tell him exactly and to the point. Oh My Gosh! What if it was more serious like AIDS? It scares me to think you want to lie or not even mention it.

gemini180180 April 17, 2011 at 11:26 am

First of all you need to tell them because that is messed up to do that to them. There is protection like condoms you can use if they decided to be with you. I’m sure you would like your boyfriend to tell you if he has Aids wouldn’t you? So tell them don’t ruin it for everyone. I wouldn’t want to get that or anything else. Just because you have it doesn’t mean for you to spread it around and ruin every ones life. I’m sure you are a very nice person and someone will look passed that. Good luck!

real_sweetheart_76 April 17, 2011 at 11:42 am

You’d better tell him. You’ve cheated, you gave that away with that sentence about acting like u don’t have it and let him think he gave it to you. That is a very horrible thing to do.

U need to fess up to him about your infidelity, if he’s been faithful to you then he will know you cheated once he finds that bump on his d*ck!!!! It’s better that you tell him before he finds out another way.

Besides what if he’s been lucky and hasn’t contracted it from you yet. You may save him from being infected by telling him. If u love him wouldn’t you want to stop it from happening to him? If you don’t love him please keep your warted bumpy pu**y away from him so he can still have a life beyond you.
Please do the right thing here.

gottisanatomy April 17, 2011 at 12:34 pm

No worries! Hallmark actually has a card for this. It is next to the one that says sorry you can’t figure out who your baby’s daddy is.

jc1644 April 17, 2011 at 12:43 pm

In your own interests you should be open and upfront with your boyfriend with regard to you HSV and HPV. If you would like a booklet on how to reduce your outbreaks you can download a free herpes survival guide at http://www.xherpes.com/
Just scroll down and you will see the box to download the info in a yellow window.

Peanut April 17, 2011 at 1:13 pm

Tell them and STOP having sex with guy after guy…no wonder why you are easy. There are AIDS out there…sorry…but you need to stop having sex…what you have can spead to another guy who is having sex with you if/when he doesn’t have it.

proudmatriarch April 17, 2011 at 1:38 pm

Wow!!! I cannot believe that someone actually had sex with you!!!!

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