What would you do if?

by Rachel on May 9, 2011

The guy you were seeing was trying to coerce you to have sex with him even after you have explained that you are not ready to do so and he seemed “okay” with it.

I have had an experience where I was given the Human Papilloma Virus and I ended up having to have a colposcopy as a result because when I had my first pap smear, the results came back as abnormal and I had to get it fixed asap. A guy I was seeing about a year and a half ago gave me the virus. So ever since the procedure, I am not so trusting of other guys and I don’t want to rush into a sexual relationship.

However, this stance that I have taken has caused problems between myself and the guy that I was seeing recently. We used to always fight about that – sex. All the time. He’d complain about how he doesnt get any and I stick to my guns and say I am not ready. We fight so damn much that I just can’t seem to trust the guy.

What do you think?
We had a massive argument about it and he is of the opinion that if I was to treat him like my boyfriend, I would be sleeping with him. But I’m like do you even care about me because you know that this is a massive deal for me? And he would never ever address my concerns throughout the whole time we were arguing, he would just bring everything back to himself. He even ignored me for 3 days afterwards.

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MannytheMoodyMammoth May 9, 2011 at 8:00 pm

Well you can keep on telling him that since the procedure you don’t want to rush into sex because you’re scared and so on. If he still doesn’t get the message, then don’t even bother staying more with him because he is selfish.

Mikaele Daniel May 9, 2011 at 8:04 pm

If you feel you can’t trust him end things now and save yourself the trouble.

Romantic craft Creations May 9, 2011 at 8:51 pm

Tell you what i think he is selfish.
And just think he will be the same after marriage,
If your not careful you may get something else next time .

Kaye Cee May 9, 2011 at 9:04 pm

first of all sorry about what happened now if he doesnt want to accept the fact that your not ready then leave if its that much of a problem for him there are plenty more guys out there ok? its not worth it dont ever feel like you have to just because he wants to its not worth it your a human being that can make their own decisions and if your decision is to not have sex then dont he needs to get over it

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